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Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655

Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655

The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.

On the Regular Version …

Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning into parenthood and the triggers that can lead to destructive anger. Natalie emphasizes the importance of recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way, and she dives into the SIT and PRAY method.

We also explore the concept of anger as a covering emotion and the need for forgiveness and personal growth in healing relationships. We all as parents need to take responsibility for our actions and possibly offer empathy and compassion for our own parents’ struggles.

Learn more from Natalie here https://nataliehixson.com/

Takeaways

Transitioning into parenthood can be challenging, leading to feelings of anger and anxiety.
Recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Anger can be a covering emotion, masking deeper feelings of sadness, fear, or insecurity.
Forgiveness and personal growth are key to healing and breaking generational patterns.
Taking responsibility for our actions and seeking support can lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Helping yourself is the key to helping your kids.

Episode Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Mission
05:32 The Challenges of Motherhood and Marriage
06:40 The Transition into Parenthood
08:23 Recognizing the Need for Change
11:42 Seeking Therapy and Personal Growth
13:13 Differentiating Destructive Anger from Normal Anger
16:29 Clarifying Emotions and Communicating Effectively
20:06 Anger as a Covering Emotion

On the Xtended Version …

The conversation goes deeper as we explore the importance of personal growth and self-improvement in the context of marriage. We can only change ourselves and our reactions, which can lead to positive changes in our relationships.

We touch on the fact that there is often  resistance to change and fear of uncertainty that can arise in relationships. But it is important that take responsibility for our own lives and actions.

Enjoy the show!

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How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654

How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654

Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let’s explore the concept of ‘good naked’ and ‘bad naked’ and how it can impact erotic energies.

It is important to maintain energy and tension in your relationship. One way to do this is through the process of flirting with your spouse. How you ask?

We go over several tips today – including being congruent with who you are, using playful teasing, complimenting each other, and showing genuine interest. We also discuss the role of body language and physical cues in flirting.

Takeaways

Does bad naked negatively impact the connection and energy between spouses?

It is important to maintain tension between spouses.

Flirting is a playful and subtle way of expressing romantic interest.

There are several ways to flirt – but most importantly it must be genuine and authentic.

Instigate – Escalate – Isolate

Episode Chapters

00:00 Welcome to the show
01:25 Topics: How to Flirt
04:30 Discussion on ‘Good Naked’ and ‘Bad Naked’
05:32 Does ‘Bad Naked’ Impact Erotic Energies?
08:17 Maintaining Energy and Tension in a Relationship
09:37 How to Flirt with Your Spouse
11:42 Defining Flirting and Being Congruent
12:47 Playfulness and Teasing in Flirting
14:14 Complimenting and Genuine Interest
21:36 Body Language and Physical Cues
24:45 Instigating, Escalating, and Isolating

On the Xtended Version …

An email from an Academy member who is in a dilemma having his wife’s reactions to his attraction towards her as him being  gross or untrustworthy. 

We unpack how there are moves every person makes in marriage. So how do you become more aware of your moves while also making better ones in response to your spouse’s moves? 

Enjoy the show!

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No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653

No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653

Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in a couple’s sex life. We also touch on holiday etiquette and the role of sex toys as stocking stuffers. It is important to have open and honest communication in marriage and the benefits of using tools like the Our Intimate Choices worksheet can enhance both intimacy and understanding between spouses.

Takeaways

Be aware of your surroundings as overnight guests in someone else’s home.
When giving sex toys as gifts, keep the recipient’s comfort level and preferences in mind.
Open and honest communication is essential in a marriage, especially when it comes to discussing boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in the bedroom.
The Our Intimate Choices worksheet is a great tool for couples to explore and clarify their desires and expectations in their sex life.

Episode Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sexy Marriage Radio
01:27 Today’s episode topics
06:40 Holiday etiquette and sex
12:19 Exploring the Our Intimate Choices worksheet
23:03 Benefits and reflections on this exercise

On the Xtended Version …

Every November there is a growing number of people who participate in No-Nut November. Not sure what this is?

They commit to go one month without masturbating/orgasming. What began as an online fad has grown quite a lot over the years.

But what if it’s actually dangerous?

Enjoy the show!

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Is Sex A Normal Function? #652

Is Sex A Normal Function? #652

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The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.

On the Regular Version …

Today we revisit a segment from the archives – A wife wants to know more how to help her husband and his struggle with pornography usage.

A husband wants to know how to talk about sex more with his wife – who was raised by her grandfather and never taught anything about the subject, even how to talk about it.

On the Xtended Version …

Is sex a normal function?

we unpack this more in the Xtended content – because how you answer this question determines how you face the struggle this act will create in life and marriage.

Enjoy the show!

Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651

Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651

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Everyone gets the full show …

We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, about how sex works in your brain.

There is updated science, so she updated her work.

What changed?

Listen to find out.

Learn more about Dr Nogowski here – https://www.emilynagoski.com/

Enjoy the show!

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What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650

What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.

On the Regular Version …

I’m joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Therapist. 

We dive into the world of money and marriage and meanings. 

Learn more about Bill here – https://pacesetterplanning.com/

On the Xtended Version …

Pam and I discuss our take our takeaways from the conversation with Bill. It’s all about the meanings of things – not the things.

Enjoy the show!

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Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649

Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649

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The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.

On the Regular Version …

I’m joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation. 

You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here – https://connectioncodes.co/passionatelymarried 

On the Xtended Version …

Pam and I discuss our take on the Connection Codes tool. Is it good for everyone? Are there things to look out for if you use it?

Enjoy the show!

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What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648

What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648

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The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now.

On the Regular Version …

Why do people get married? Let’s explore several reasons and motivations.

Plus, what do we most often expect from our marriage and life as it pertains to others?

On the Xtended Version …

Can you marry the wrong person?

Is this even the best question to ask?

Enjoy the show!

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Sorry Not Sorry #647

Sorry Not Sorry #647

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On the Regular Version …

Apologies are a part of every life and relationship. But what about the times when we think we’re apologizing but we’re really not?

We listen into a recent mastermind group call where the guys are talking about saying I’m sorry and addressing the hurt.

On the Xtended Version …

We unpack the first segment a little more, then jump into the steps towards a genuine apology and repair in relationships. 

Enjoy the show!

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About your hosts

Corey and Pam Allan

He’s a PhD level marriage and family therapist and she’s a woman who speaks her mind. Together they’re the incredibly authentic, honest, smart, helpful, shockingly open, and seriously fun couple you want to grab a cup of coffee and hang with. They share the ups and downs of marriage along with their listeners,  while giving you conversation starters and actions you can take to ramp up your relationship.

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