What's my next step?

Relationship Design

I regularly receive emails from awesome Simple Marriage readers like this:

Thanks for all that you do to help marriages. I’ve been struggling with my relationship for the past XX years. I just recently discovered your material and become a regular listener of Sexy Marriage Radio.

I also plan to read some of the material you regularly reference, like Schnarch, Gottman, Glover, and Eldredge.

(Insert brief description of history of marital struggles here.)

We tried counseling (or I went on my own because my spouse wasn’t interested) but this resulted in little, if any improvement. I am looking for what my next step should be, or where I should begin.

Thank you for you support of marriages and your help.

A Simple Marriage Reader

I’m honored that Simple Marriage has become a trusted resource for marriage help. And I love that many readers regularly stop by to glean information that helps improve (or provide hope for) their relationships.
In order to help you navigate everything Simple Marriage has to offer better, what follows is a guide to help you with your next step forward.
Let’s begin with material that’s free then work our way through everything else.

Blog posts

Simple Marriage began in 2008, so to date there are more than 800 posts. If you don’t want to scroll through each page to find material on a certain topic, then you can check out the Archives or, better yet, use the search bar in the sidebar and find exactly what you’re looking for.

Free Marriage Courses

Let’s say you’re interested in reading information that will help your marriage but you want it only about a certain topic. No worries. You can simply sign up for a free marriage course that comes via email every other day. The topics we have covered thus far include Simplicity, Nice Guy/Nice Girl, Marital Communication, Sex, Desire Differences, and Family Life and Parenting.

Sexy Marriage Radio

Gina Parris and I host a weekly radio show that covers everything about married sex – the good, the bad, and even the ugly. New shows come out every Wednesday so you can listen to us discuss ways to heat up your sex life. We’re straight-froward, honest, practical, and will cover any issue and aspect of what can be the greatest (and most frustrating) aspect of married life.


Throughout the course of Simple Marriage, I’ve written two different manifestos that describe in more detail our view on marriage.

  1. A Simple Marriage Manifesto What marriage is really all about.
  2. The Three-Way Marriage A Christian perspective about marriage’s design.

The Simple Marriage Store

Practical resources that will help your relationship. You can pick up Dr. Allan’s books or listen to casual conversations about issues you face in marriage – point is there are resources you can buy that help.

Simple Marriage University

Over the past couple of years we’ve create several online courses you can take from the comfort of your own home.
Blow Up My Marriage, our flagship course, offers a radically different way to view relationships and then walks with you as you create something better. The course (most popular option) is offered three times per year, but if you missed an enrollment window you can take the instant option and begin right away.
Sex On Sundays is our course that breaks down the dynamics of sex and helps you live more from the best in yourself – thus increasing the likelihood that sex will begin to be better for both of you. There’s a course for Him, a course for Her, and the companion Ours course coming soon.
He Said, She Said is all about marital communication. One of the most frustrating aspects of married life are the times when you feel you simply can’t communicate. In this course you’ll discover that in fact you’re communicating fine, just you don’t like the message. He Said, She Said will help you learn to handle the message.
Marriage Sparks are our mini-courses that will jumpstart an area of your marriage. Decision making, time, sex, and expectations are just a couple of the sparks we’ve covered thus far.

Work with Dr. Allan

Not only do I see clients regularly in my office in the suburbs of North Dallas, I also work with people from all over the world. I have several different packages to choose from so we can not only work together to make changes and improvements in your relationships – but work to make sure they last.

Simple Marriage Getaway

If you’re associated with a group, church or community that wants to offer a great resource for marriages in your area, you can bring Dr. Allan in to host a Getaway. This is not your typical marriage retreat … it truly is a getaway. Great information, laughter, relaxation, and fun.
Simple Marriage is 5 years old, and I feel like we’ve only scratched the surface.
Here’s to all that’s to come!